No matter how much help you provide for someone, no one can really provide help but themselves.
As a friend you can always be around for advice or for resources, yet in order to effectively get help they must do so with their own hands.
Within my case once I noticed a problem, I immediately went to get help. Others may reject offers of help, and decide to continue on with their seemingly idiotic ways.
When I put the concept of “help” into context, I think about how pointless offers of help are if they are not acted upon. Why put so much effort into helping others if they refuse to help themselves? It is quite infuriating to see such promise in an individual be thrown away because of their own inability to take responsibility for themselves.
Worry is such a strong instrument of life for we always seem to find ourselves fretting about something. I am at the point in my life where I am able to see how worrying and overthinking about others is more damaging to your own mental health then it is beneficial. As humans we are continuously worried about others even when our worry is not needed. I am not sure if it is some parental instinct deep within psyches, but we always seem to be caring for those who cannot care for their own self. Within regards to my depression, I began to take note of how this illness was not only hurting myself but as well as the friends and family around me. I took the advice of my peers and made sure to get help, with the goal of achieving stability. Getting help is not the easiest thing to do, but it is really the only way to get better. You can hand hold someone through the path of their troubles bearing the brunt of the problems they face, but by doing so you are inhibiting them from seeing the seriousness of their situation for they are being carried through life. It is not until you let go and watch them fend for themselves that the reality of humanity and darkness begins to sink in.
Over the past few weeks I have learned a very important lesson: You cannot let the decisions of others influence your mind. No matter what you do, or what you say the decision of help is within their mind alone, for nothing you do change that. In the words of Nat, “They must hit rock bottom before they realize that they are there.”